Perfecting friendships is a difficult thing

I was strolling among Barnes and Noble, checking out different new releases, interesting books, comics, and toys for kids. I came upon a book shelf of neatly printed copies of the same book: All the Single Ladies. It must be a new release, a hot sale on Amazon books, something that everyone is reading. I picked it up, judged its cover, its thickness, its font size, and paper used for print, then started reading its symaposis. As I was scanning, the keywords I picked up are: single moms, betrayal, kids problems, distant families, and friendship.

Friendship, an emotional connection thats so important and yet often times overlooked upon, is something that always seem mystical to me. Everyone's preception of the importance of friendship in their life is different. Based on your past, your interactions with people, your attitude, people's feedback of you, you see friendships with various degrees of appreciation. I was very bitter once, due to my lack of connections with people around me, I couldn't establish any meaningful, genuine friendships. I was very confused, saw befriending individuals as a skillset that I will never master. I never appreciated the notion of friendship until when I got to college, when I was surrounded by more like minded people -- people not coming from wealthy backgrounds, people with similar ethnic lineages, people trying to find their own accepted communities, etc. Then the idea of friendship came in my favor. After a few years of sweaking my ways of befriending, I believe that there is a few skills required in order for true friendships to form. They say most friendships are shallow and built on top of gain and cost, they also say that friendship is one of the most meaningful connections you can form. So far what I can conclude is that friendship partially replys on your attitude, degree of appreciation, ways of handle conflicts, and degree of understanding of yourself and others. Despite all that, it takes two to tango. If the person you are trying to befriend is someone who has no recognition of his or her surroundings, you would need a lot more work than you want to put in to form a true friendship that will gain you happy points in life.